Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Seizing the Moment

Matthew and Ken at a Mets / Indians game this summer.

We have lots of what I call "forever memories" in our family. These are the moments in time that are so precious and so important that we can 'revisit' later and remember vividly. I have so many of these and I bet you do, too!

I have a picture frame that says, "Some moments we never forget because our lives have been changed by them forever." Yep, that pretty well sums it up! In this frame (see below) I have a photo of my husband and son that was taken on Mother's Day several years ago. Whenever I look at this photo, I remember that fun Mother's Day and sharing sweet moments with my boys on our patio. It was a wonderful afternoon and the memory of it and the laughs we shared that day is a "forever memory" for me and one that I revisit every time I see the photo. I love it!

The photo at the top of this posting was taken Father's Day week this year. Matthew surprised his Dad with tickets to the Mets vs. Indians game for Father's Day (a little early). I should note that we live near Cleveland and are also Indians fans, but my husband was born a New Yorker and has been a Mets fan since he was a little boy. His and Matthew's dedication to the Mets runs deep, much deeper than their dedication to the Indians. (Sorry dear friends who are HUGE Indians fans, but you already knew this!)

When Matthew surprised his Dad with tickets to 4th row seats for the game, they were both giddy with excitement. It was such a thoughtful gift and one Matthew was so exctied to present to his dad! The photo above was taken on that memorable night. Matthew invited me to go along, but it was a special night just for the two of them. So even though I wasn't even there, the evening is a memory FOR ME! I know how excited Matthew was to do something so special for his dad and how happy Ken was to share that time with Matthew. It became a "forever memory" for all of us.

Life is so short and can be full of disappointments. We need to have lots of special memories like these to carry us through the days when those moments seem so far away. We often reminisce about our fond memories in our family and it sometimes surprises me that some of our favorite ones are not big events or special occasions, but rather those every day experiences that we often take for granted.

We have been creating wonderful memories this summer with our son home from college. Our conversations around the dinner table, eating on the patio and Dairy Queen runs getting what we laughingly call "treats" are those which rank high on my list. I hope there are many more special memories to be made before the summer ends!

What "forever memories" will you create for your family and friends this summer?


Jenni said...

I like the unexpected, unplanned moments when suddenly life becomes full color and the snap shot stays with you forever. Those are the ones that I keep in my heart. Too special to even try to share them.

Great blog. Keep it coming!

Vanessa said...

Thanks, Jenni. I like that - "full color and the snapshot stays with you." :-)

The Ski's said...

I, too, try so hard to capture those forever memories, because it seems like those that become forever ones are those that can be irritating at first. You know, the ones like Reid dumping my flour container on the kitchen floor while I was trying to just move the laundry from the washer to the dryer. That's a memory. It was a frustration, though, at first! I think right now, I am trying to remember those so close to my heart that make it smile so. When Reid greets Ellie every morning with, "Good Morning, Ellie!" and hugs her until she can't breathe. That's a forever moment. I feel like I have been blessed by many of these moments...and I just pray they keep coming. Frustrating or not!

Vanessa said...

Janeen, those are sweet, sweet memories. :-) Thank you for sharing!

I do know what you mean about the frustrating things being memorable. Several years ago I had made 2 casseroles of the same recipe. One, I placed on a trivet after baking, but the other I placed on a stovetop that was apparently still hot. I picked up the second casserole to move it and the dish broke in my hands! Needless to say the dish and its contents ended up all over the floor. Matthew and I were in the kitchen together when this happened and he and I just looked at each other and laughed hysterically! I was so aggravated at the lost dish, but it was just so funny! Matthew still laughs when he talks about this and how we just laughed together. Sometimes we do just have to be willing to enjoy the humor of it all! And laughter really is the tie that binds us... :-)